Thread:Merrimack/@comment-27643406-20160711093239/@comment-32738051-20160711123948

OMG, 4paws, I do like you and I want you to stay, no matter whether you oppose or support TDC and no matter whether you and I agree or disagree. And I wasn't being insulting to either you or Dean and I'm sorry you took it that way. But on Dean's wall, I wasn't going to let a great project with great potential to help this community pass into the night without trying to clear up what appeared to be a miscommunication that could kill it. And I had to go back and find the other post you mentioned because I still have not been to bed yet and I'm starting to get just a little bit fuzzy. I found it, re-read it and no, I didn't intend that one to be insulting either and certainly not at you, though it was on your wall. But things are way out of hand here and everyone is suffering for it and I really do believe it needs to stop because all these recriminations and accusations and sharing all this evidence ad nauseam are not what this community is about and it's all very much like pouring salt into an open wound. I wouldn't have said it but for the fact that Foss herself begged in one of the posts for it to stop and it didn't. And as for fitting into this community, everyone has always welcomed everyone else here, no matter who or what they are or what their backgrounds are, etc. Infinite Diversity in Infinite Combination. It is not my vision for this community nor where I want it to go. It is and always has been Foss' site and I have always seen her intention as the site being an open community where all can contribute and make it their own. I really do want it to be what it has always been and I have ideas how we can do better so it continues to be that and I have shared some of those ideas and I think I have given some good advice. But those are just ideas, just suggestions, for people to take and leave them as they see fit. Yes, Dean has suggested a potential revision of the community guidelines and he has asked TDC to help. The project I was referring to. And my name was brought as someone who could help and I said I would do what I could. But Foss has suggested and I agree that no matter what gets proposed for changes, if and when the project gets off the ground, that it will be up to this community to review and approve or reject. Not my vision, not where I want it to go but I may play a small role. I believe everyone should be free to speak their mind and share their opinion but I can't say that I support either when everyone in this community starts hurting like they are now because of it. And more than anything I want everyone to stop hurting. That's really all I want. I'm glad you considered me a valued member and you may not believe me when I say this but I value you as well. And to me you leaving will just be one more example of how this community is hurting. I never meant to hurt you, only for the hurting to stop. I hope you believe that and choose to stay. And please please please, if you have any ideas on how we can make all this hurting stop, other than kicking TDC off the site immediately without the final chance (which I am leaving entirely up to Foss to figure out and if you have no idea what I'm referring to, check out AAA's post below once I add more content), I'm all ears because I've tried my damnedest and nothing seems to be working and nothing seems to be getting any better and everyone keeps hurting.