Thread:Sannse/@comment-30663775-20170711192614/@comment-8-20170719162430

I know for my part, I have had a major realization. My residual fear of a TDC type happening again has colored my perceptions in many a conversation thus affecting my reactions. Although my policy is to stay quiet, it still permeated my view of the wiki as a whole. And certainly how I perceived certain people. I know I am not alone in this.

After this realization, I have gone back and reread some things. Wow, what a difference. I did not know how much my fear had tainted otherwise normal discourse until I did that. I am beginning to see some things differently as well as some of my feelings on things are changing. I am still cautious, but I feel like I am now more capable of being more open. I also am going to be more cognizant of the "lens" that I am viewing through when reading posts. I am going to give myself time to process and come back and reread with less fear and see if I still have the same reaction. This is exactly what I meant when talking about tone here.

I've had the same experience of reading something then realizing my own biases had colored my perception of the tone.

In my case I read a nasty message that I thought was written by someone I didn't get along with, then realized it was actually written by a friend of mine! Re-reading knowing that gave me a whole new perspective on the post. Since then I have made a point of being more careful about presuming tone 🙂