Thread:KJ8/@comment-27990581-20170217130034/@comment-30339728-20170301164150

KJ,

I completely understand about both your anger and your dad's mindset. I may be assuming something, but I figure he is very "old fashioned European" as my parents were (they were born in 1931 in Holland and although they came to the US in 1958 they never lost that part of their personalities). The wife giving in and putting herself second so as not to inconvenience anyone else - especially her husband.

I would suggest that you telephone your mother's doctor and insist as her advocate that he speak with your mother and father and insist she go to this therapy. If she does not put herself first in this instance then her recovery could  be compromised.

While it will be difficult for you, I'd also speak to your dad alone, perhaps with the doctor or someone you know will support you, and insist that she go. It wouldn't be forever and he needs to see that. Another thing to consider is he may be afraid - of being alone - of being not in control - of being unable to do to help her - it could be lots of things. Perhaps when you speak with him - adult to adult - truths will come out.

Strength and best wishes.

Lidewey