Thread:OylerD/@comment-26424426-20160131003659/@comment-26424426-20160131175320

Dean, you are not coward, and you did the right thing. Sometimes we have to protect ourselves. I absolutely understand your feelings -- I felt the same way but in reverse, that my mother had passed before my dad. Not just for my sake, but hers as well. He would have coped far better than she, and she was a challenge for everyone. So I understand...and as for the guilt feeling, it means you are a kind, good human. But do not stew in that feeling; your other feelings reflect the truth of the situation. Sometimes the truth is not pretty, or peaceful, or easy -- it just is.

You, my friend, are a good man and your brother knows that (my oldest aunt was the same as your brother; my husband served that same role for me). Call me and I am happy to tell you that as many times as you want and need to hear it, you beloved silly ol' bear.

🐨🐎💝