Thread:Betty2015/@comment-28694170-20180211161907

I feel that the point of all of these disagreements stem from “righting the wrongs” of the past - the ban and the length of it, the fact that one of the admins was never voted in.

As documented in previous threads that I have no interest in digging up, I wholeheartedly supported the ban and the length of it. The decision that was made by Kat (and supported by GEL) was not made lightly. Kat spent time at Fandom as well. She did not pick a number out of the air.

For the sake of the newbies, MFB was given multiple warnings. I feel that there can be an aggressiveness to MFB’s posts and an in-your-face attitude that leaves a lot to be desired. Authority is not respected. I was not raised that way. What is so important about this wiki that tears are worth shedding over? I honestly cannot think of anything, but that’s me.

This place is big enough for people with different beliefs and different interests to co-exist. I have been part of this wiki since June 2016. There are some long-standing members that I have never crossed paths with.

When Foss put together her first team, I became the Chat Moderator. Unfortunately, real life prevented me from being here as often as I would have liked. I had online parties, and this gave me the opportunity to get to know many of you. I resigned from my position as Chat Moderator in July 2017, as nothing had changed with the temperature of this wiki.

I was thrown under the bus by several people. One person posted the contents of a private e-mail. In the e-mail, I had even stated “this stays between us, right?”

We all need to move on from what has happened, myself incliuded. I think we all want the same thing - a fun place where we can learn about the game and each other. And less drama. I know that I have enough drama in my real life; I do not need any here. I believe that the reason that long-standing members have left in droves is because of the drama that often exists here. These members check in now and again and see that nothing has changed. I would not be encouraging anybody to join with all of this bickering.

There are many wonderful people here. The written word is difficult to interpret sometimes, even with the best of intentions. I feel that people are sometimes reading more into posts than they should.

When I joined this wiki in June 2016, I was going through a mild depression due to the unhealthy dynamics within my family and my Dad’s failing health. In one month alone, my mood improved significantly, as I laughed my way out of the mild depression. Many people refer to the Summer of 2016, myself included. I felt that there was true collaboration and teamwork under Foss. There was very little drama, with the exception of the troll.

A community is only as healthy as its individual members. We all have individual needs and reasons for being here. I believe that we can all co-exist, but it may take a change in attitude among some. A letting go of “me.” In the big picture, all of this bickering really does not matter. This is a virtual community. People present whatever persona they wish. Some are “what you see is what you get.” Others have a fabricated personality that they wish to portray.

I believe that the current admins and the ones being nominated have several things in common: they love this wiki and they love helping people.

The trust issues that exist between people here is going to take time to repair. It is not going to happen instantaneously. Everybody has to be prepared to make the effort. Certain people bring out the best in each other with very little effort. Certain people bring out the worst in each other with very little effort. Friendships are difficult enough without reading more into words. It is fine to have a less-than-positive opinion about somebody. Every single thought that goes through your brain does not need to be posted on this wiki. That’s what close friends are for. We all have our frustrating moments where somebody irks us. . . I certainly do. I vent to my closest friends, and then I am over it.

I have seen good admins here, and I have seen not-so-good admins. What I am looking for in an admin is somebody who has the guts to make the tough decisions and to follow through. Somebody who does not cave to pressure. And definitely somebody who does not reveal private e-mails.

I apologize for the part that I played in perpetuating the drama and the bickering. I am extremely protective of the people who I care about, and I do not appreciate them being attacked. 