Thread:4solace/@comment-30567431-20170719012743/@comment-28482541-20170719040609

I am just sorry that they came too late. I was trying so hard not to contribute to the negativity that I did not stand up for you, for that, I am truly sorry and humbly beg your forgiveness.

I only recently came to this opinion. I started out one way and have ended up reaching different conclusions. I think before I just did not have all the facts. I thought it had to do with editing, MFB, or old fears of TDC. Those things are wrappped up in all this. But I see now it also how you treat and speak with people as well as inclusion and exclusion issues. And quite frankly, like *#^* said the high school like cliques did not and does not help. I was trying to give everyone time to get their footing and I thought things would level out. I kept thinking the defensive/attacking tone would ease out. The last week has shown me otherwise. Not only did it continue but at times seemed to crop up out of the blue for no reason at all.

I also should have spoken up on MFB ban. I have been of the opinion that I agreed with the ban but not the length. Seems like I remember Foss having a guide she used of first a warning that clearly states the next step will be a ban, and then the first ban being two weeks only. Then there was a longer ban for the second, and I believe the third could be permanent but not always depending.

There are several areas with editing that I did not feel educated enough to give a valid opinion. Yet I should have spoken up about everyone's right to do editing.

With each friend that left, I should have spoken up.

I genuinely thought staying out of it and promoting positivity was best. I just realized a little late that it should not be at the expense of standing up for what is right. That it made me complicit in allowing others to be mistreated. It is good not to bully, but it is not enough if you don't stand up for the bullied. To let them know they are not alone, to stand with them, and even fight for them.

I saw you try. Thank you. I should have joined you. Live and learn. I will now. Admit your mistakes. Pick your butt up. Dust it off and move on doing better.

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